Emotional Freedom

How to Find Emotional Freedom

By: Wende Wylie

A DOT-Nista is Calm and Poised no matter what.

Here’s a technique to get and stay there!

As one of the first women in the Fire Service, I quickly learned how to remain calm amidst chaos and make critical-life-changing decisions.  I used meditation, breathing, and a variety of stress-control techniques, but there was one in particular that eliminated stress in my life.

Dot-Nistas, are you ready for something new?

Tapping or EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is easy to use and provides results that reduce the physical and emotional symptoms related to stress and anxiety. Tapping is a unique version of acupuncture except there are no needles. Instead, you stimulate energy points on your body by tapping them with your fingertips. The process is easy to remember and can be done anywhere; before, during and after a stressful situation.

Here’s How it Works

The body runs on electrical energy; enough to power a small town! If you placed a device that measured the flow and resistance of electricity on your body when you’re happy, you would see the energy flow smoothly. However, when we experience a negative emotion such as anger, anxiety, fear, or other stress-related emotions, the meter would show a definite reduction in flow of energy or ‘resistance’. We can remove the resistance by changing our emotional state or we could change our emotional state by increasing the flow of energy. Both are effective, however Tapping is by far the fastest and easiest method to reduce stress and anxiety and reset our energy flow.

Many People Use Tapping

I use Tapping every day in my personal life and coaching sessions. I also teach Tapping at no charge to Military, Police, Firefighters, Paramedics, and 9-1-1 Dispatchers. Once they learn the technique, they use it for themselves and others to ensure the best possible outcome in high stress situations. I’ve seen Dispatchers use Tapping over the phone to calm people down while waiting for emergency responders to arrive.

It’s becoming more widely used in dental offices and surgical centers to relieve fear and anxiety, and professional speakers and performers use it eliminate stage fright. Professional athletes use Tapping to enhance their performance and sharpen their focus. I use it to reduce my cravings for chocolate, when I remember.

Here’s How You Can Do It, Too

It’s simple. Follow these steps to have your own experience of Tapping right now.

1. Focus your attention on any upset in any area of your life. For the first time, I recommend something simple. It should be an area you are willing to experience some relief. Examples include feeling pressed for time, guilty about eating too much chocolate, or even a mild pain or discomfort in your body.

a. Give the upset, pain or discomfort a rating from 0 (none) to 10 (high).

2. Imagine a series of wires in your brain that are all plugged into each other. Next, envision one of those wires is connected to the upset, pain or discomfort.

3. Imagine the wire being unplugged.

4. Now, put your fingers right between your eyebrows just above your nose and begin tapping lightly– about 5-7 times. Stay focused on the upset while imagining the wire being unplugged.

5. Move your fingers around the eyebrow to the outside of the eye, right on the bone. Tap 5-7 times.

6. Move your fingers to just below your eye on the bone. Tap 5-7 times.

7. Move your fingers to your collarbone right next to your throat. Tap 5-7 times. The entire time, focus on the upset, pain or discomfort. You may accompany the tapping with any words or thoughts that usually come up with those thoughts.

8. Now, you have two choices: press against the inside of your wrist with the thumb of your other hand, or tap both of your wrists together making an ‘X’ with your hands.

9. Take a deep breath and re-evaluate the upset, pain or discomfort. If it has changed at all, great! Keep repeating the process until it is zero. If it has not changed, do the process one or two more times. If there is still no change, there may be an adjustment necessary to how the problem is being observed.

I remember coaching a man who said the problem wouldn’t go away no matter how much he tapped.

I asked him, “What’s the problem?”

He said, “My boss keeps coming into my office yelling at me.”

No matter how much he tapped, the boss still came to his office and yelled. Tapping won’t stop your boss from coming into your office, but it will reduce your upset about the situation. He shifted his thought to his own upset about his boss, and after three times through the process he no longer felt upset about his boss. In fact, he found it funny!

There are many videos and help articles about Tapping (EFT) available. Here are a few links:


EFT Universe http://www.EFTuniverse.com

Faster EFT http://www.FasterEFT.com


Wende Wylie makes a remarkable difference in people’s lives.  She was one of the first women firefighters in the San Francisco Bay Area in the early 1980s. Her presence made unexpected and lasting changes in the Fire Service regarding the acceptance of women.

With her book “Calm-Ass Leadership” she shares her inspiration of a type of leadership she developed that men readily accepted. She retired as the Training Officer of her department, and during her career was voted Firefighter of the Year and decorated for Heroism.

Wende also shares her findings about men and their unique non-verbal communication in a dynamic workshop called “The Hidden Language of Men.” Women complain that men don’t communicate, but they’re mistaken. Men communicate constantly in a non-verbal, energetic language that CAN be learned!

Contact Wende if you are interested in hosting a workshop or scheduling a private coaching session. You can download a complimentary PDF file of Calm-Ass Leadership here: http://www.WendeWylie.com or purchase the book or Kindle at amazon.com.

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