Destinys Child

Nasty Gal

Written By: Dorothy Enriquez

 

Shakin’ that thang on that man

Lookin’ all stank and nasty

 Swore you look cute girl in them dukes

 Booty all out lookin’ trashy

 Sleazy put some clothes on, I told ya

 Don’t walk out ya heezy without clothes on, I told ya

-Destiny’s Child

L’Histoire:

Nasty Girl called attention to some women’s lack of pride and self-worth. Remember when the word ‘ho’ started being used to refer to a woman with no class and slut-tendencies? That must have been the early 90’s. And prior to that, ‘heffa’ was a predominant term used to describe a woman who was fast, class-less and trashy. Today we use words like ‘skank’, ‘ratchet’ and ‘slwhore’ to describe this same assortment of women who don’t seem to understand the fine line between sexy and slutty. Some may tap dance on the divide while others blatantly cross over with hopes of ‘catching’. However, what type of friends or men would we really attract looking like we leapt from the working the street corner into ‘regular’ society?

As women, why are we so insecure? We go to the club/bar in simply a bra and underwear and call it sexy. Why do we wear lingerie to the club when it belongs in the bedroom and last but not least, why in the world do we wear the underwear outside of the leggings? Whose idea was that?!

The Conundrum:

How can one woman look classy and another look trashy if they’re wearing the SAME outfit? Ladies, if you’ve ever finagled with the line and you’re not sure why people miss take you to be someone or something you’re not, let’s discuss a few simple rules of thumb to be the classy gal vs. the nasty gal.

The Fix:

Classy gals are associated with sophistication and style. Here are 3 tips to make the switch or reinforce what you’re already doing:

  1. Create Rituals that Develop A Sense of Self Worth. High self-worth only comes from knowing you are worthy. You need to perceive your merchandise as ‘good’. Check out Proverbs 31.
  2. No Need to Let It All Hang Out. Why not leave a little somethin’ somethin’ to the imagination? Have the awareness and self-respect to judge correctly based on the event or activity. According to thefemininewoman.com, for most women, it’s not a matter of stupidity or ignorance of dress code, either. It’s really a matter of: how desperate are we for attention? Even if only subconsciously: How sure are we that we’re valuable and don’t have to reveal everything?
  3. Maintain Manners. Say please, thank you and excuse me (minus attitude or teeth sucking and eye rolling). Stand up straight, shoulders back, head held high and a sense of pride regarding the woman you’ve grown up to be.

There are a plethora of other things we women can do to maintain the class and sophistication that usually garners the type of attention we are looking for; however, the aforementioned tips are a great spring board to hop on the good foot and head back to the other side of the tracks –er the fine line between class and trash. For the sake of all of our inner hookers, let’s just save it for Halloween–deal?

What do you think: Is it possible for two women to wear the same outfit and be perceived differently by onlookers? Leave a comment below!

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  1. Jay
    Jay03-11-2013

    It depends on the outfit. If the outfit is very revealing and does not leave much to the imagination, then they both will appear desperate and seeking attention; however, if they are both casually dressed they can still give off two different types of body language, which speaks volumes…a lady is like a neon sign.

    XOXO,

    Jay

    • admin
      admin03-11-2013

      Agreed! A lady is like a neon sign…so perhaps it’s all about what her intentions are with her advertisement.
      Thanks for stopping by this week’s 8 AM Power Hour Blog Feature!

  2. Lamarr
    Lamarr05-01-2013

    I feel time and place are also key factors in what is considered appropriate. If you are at a cocktail bar a slightly provocative dress is commendable. That same dress could be labeled as “hoeish” in a bar at happy hour. Beyond what a woman or man is wearing presentation is the deciding factor.

    • admin
      admin05-02-2013

      I completely agree Lamarr! There is a time and a place for everything indeed. Thanks for stopping by our blog and we hope you’ll keep in touch.

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