Written By: Dorothy Enriquez
Shakin’ that thang on that man
Lookin’ all stank and nasty
Swore you look cute girl in them dukes
Booty all out lookin’ trashy
Sleazy put some clothes on, I told ya
Don’t walk out ya heezy without clothes on, I told ya
Nasty Girl called attention to some women’s lack of pride and self-worth. Remember when the word ‘ho’ started being used to refer to a woman with no class and slut-tendencies? That must have been the early 90’s. And prior to that, ‘heffa’ was a predominant term used to describe a woman who was fast, class-less and trashy. Today we use words like ‘skank’, ‘ratchet’ and ‘slwhore’ to describe this same assortment of women who don’t seem to understand the fine line between sexy and slutty. Some may tap dance on the divide while others blatantly cross over with hopes of ‘catching’. However, what type of friends or men would we really attract looking like we leapt from the working the street corner into ‘regular’ society?
As women, why are we so insecure? We go to the club/bar in simply a bra and underwear and call it sexy. Why do we wear lingerie to the club when it belongs in the bedroom and last but not least, why in the world do we wear the underwear outside of the leggings? Whose idea was that?!
How can one woman look classy and another look trashy if they’re wearing the SAME outfit? Ladies, if you’ve ever finagled with the line and you’re not sure why people miss take you to be someone or something you’re not, let’s discuss a few simple rules of thumb to be the classy gal vs. the nasty gal.
Classy gals are associated with sophistication and style. Here are 3 tips to make the switch or reinforce what you’re already doing:
- Create Rituals that Develop A Sense of Self Worth. High self-worth only comes from knowing you are worthy. You need to perceive your merchandise as ‘good’. Check out Proverbs 31.
- No Need to Let It All Hang Out. Why not leave a little somethin’ somethin’ to the imagination? Have the awareness and self-respect to judge correctly based on the event or activity. According to thefemininewoman.com, for most women, it’s not a matter of stupidity or ignorance of dress code, either. It’s really a matter of: how desperate are we for attention? Even if only subconsciously: How sure are we that we’re valuable and don’t have to reveal everything?
- Maintain Manners. Say please, thank you and excuse me (minus attitude or teeth sucking and eye rolling). Stand up straight, shoulders back, head held high and a sense of pride regarding the woman you’ve grown up to be.
There are a plethora of other things we women can do to maintain the class and sophistication that usually garners the type of attention we are looking for; however, the aforementioned tips are a great spring board to hop on the good foot and head back to the other side of the tracks –er the fine line between class and trash. For the sake of all of our inner hookers, let’s just save it for Halloween–deal?
What do you think: Is it possible for two women to wear the same outfit and be perceived differently by onlookers? Leave a comment below!